Meeting death

May 10, 10 Meeting death

A few days ago, a Damanhurian named Lira died in a car accident. She was 34 years old. She asked to be cremated, and so it was done. Before the cremation, there was a wake for her at Damanhur. Many Damanhurians attended, naturally beginning with her husband Arciere Aglio, and also relatives who came to see her.

About 70 days after her death, there will be a dinner to honor her remembrance. We’ll eat foods that she liked, tell stories about experiences we shared with her, and wish her a wonderful journey for the last time.

Death is a complex of events that is dismaying, and it is the most natural event we can come across.

 

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  1. Clip /

    I read in the local newspaper that a person from Damanhur (Lira Michela Maggiora) had concluded her journey of life due to a car accident. I would like to know more about how death is experienced at Damanhur. I thank whoever will respond, even though I know it could be a delicate theme, given the event…

  2. murena ciclamino /

    When I came to Damanhur, a young man named Orso Lichene had just died in an accident. I didn’t know him, but I participated through the involvement of the others. Even though there was pain, I felt a great sense of strength in being close with one another and knowing how to “accompany” this person to a new life. There wasn’t anything rational about it. For me, at the time, it was just a sensation.

    Two years later though, I helped to be there for someone who died of an illness, and I had the chance to understand the dignity with which one can experience the passage of death. To share some background, I was afraid of death, and I didn’t feel courageous enough to stay close to a person who was about to die. My past experiences with death were traumatic, and within me, I wasn’t able to process them. The death of this person at Damanhur, and others that followed, taught me that it is possible to die with dignity, and that this passage can be something sweet and harmonious if there is time to prepare oneself. It’s clearly different when it happens unexpectedly, like in a car accident.

    Personally, I had a difficult moment of illness a few years ago that brought me close to death. I must say that in that moment, as much as I had chosen to live, and today I’m still here to tell about it, I was also ready for this passage. Within me, I felt the serenity to be able to “die at home.” Which for me meant within a People, where I’m never alone, even though I would have had go through this passage by myself, and non one could have done it for me.

    For me, every death in Damanhur has been a teaching. Today, I feel these teachings are a part of me, in a certain sense, part of my life experience. I have always found it very beautiful, the moment of saying goodbye to someone, a moment that accompanies them on their journey. I’ve always said that I hope to have the fortune to be able to experience my death at Damanhur.

    This is a very brief synthesis of what I have experienced. I don’t talk about the philosophy of death in Damanhur, because I believe others can express it better than me. I can say that the book, “Learning to Die” offerings interesting reflections about this important moment.

  3. cassettaoro /

    Clip, your question here really caught me off guard. I understand that you live here in this area and you read about Lira’s death in the local papers. Maybe another part of the site would be more appropriate for explaining the concept of death, maybe in the part about spirituality…

    Instead, I can say that about the local area. I saw that various local people came to the ritual for saluting Lira after the cremation. There were lots and lots of people from Turin who also came to honor her. They appreciated the possibility to be able to share their own voices, memories, emotions, to extend the life of Lira in this way after her death.

    There’s a lot to say about this theme, which is, as you say, very close to our hearts in this moment. I believe that respect for death and for those we have loved should at least include respecting the will and faith of the deceased person. It’s right that everyone chooses their own pathway, also and most of all, in the important moment of death.

    I believe it is fundamental that everyone leaves a spiritual testament where it is written what they’d like to happen if they should die, because one could die at any moment, even young and beautiful and full of life, like it happened with Lira. And everyone chooses the religion, creed, and the way in which one wants to conclude the journey of life.

  4. cassettaoro /

    So it seems that some are not able to respect others, not even in this moment. It happened with Lira on the part of her relatives, who didn’t want to respect her choice as a Damanhurian. I find this, for Lira herself most of all, adding pain to a painful situation. Death should be something that brings people closer together. In the face of death, with pure hearts, we should see ourselves in each other and unite together. It shouldn’t be used to make more attacks…I find it very unethical and a sign of base feelings.

  5. Babbuino /

    I’ve always thought a lot about death. Since I was a child, it was a fascinating mystery to me, which stimulated the desire to know that happens to the awareness of the individual after the last heartbeat. Now that I am 33 years old, the desire to know the “beyond” is the same as it once was, but within me, many things have changed.

    For me, death obliges us to give value to life, to not live out of habit, but rather to realize one’s own dreams, even the ones that seem impossible! I believe that those who have non-egoistic dreams to realize, they live better and are happier than those who just go along with life, without goals and objectives. Damanhur is teaching me most of all how to live well, to give value and meaning to things. … to have many shared dreams together with others, brothers and sisters of the community, to always dare to go further and overcome my limitations, to re-conquer within me the capacity to be ever more FREE in my choices. I hope to arrive at the important moment of my physical death at the maximum of my spiritual potential to LIVE this passage with the nobility that it merits, for a death full of life lived intensely, with will and continual choice expressed in actions, to basically have in that important moment a “good launch,” given the spiritual fuel and esoteric knowledge that has been “charged” during physical life. And then, in any case, you come back! And you are reborn! So, I wish everyone a good life and a good death!